How to Get Responses to Your Personal Ads
September 30th, 2008 | by |
Will Irvin asked:
So, you’ve taken the plunge, and joined an online dating site. So many members to choose from. Where do I begin? Well, first, you’re going to need to write a personal ad that will motivate people to contact you. This may seem really difficult, but it’s really quite simple.
Here are some tips that may help you a bit:
Be honest/Be yourself - You are who you are. There’s no changing that. So why would you pretend to be someone else online? If all goes well, you will most likely eventually be meeting the person to whom you’re talking. They might be a little disappointed to find out that you’re not a 6′2″, 215 lb. former college linebacker or a petite 5′3″ 105-lb blonde former cheerleader. You may discover that the person you’re talking to thinks it’s great that you have a secret stash of Flock of Seagulls albums or that you really do like sappy love stories, or they may also be a divorced parent looking for the same in a relationship. In short, no harm can come from being yourself, but a great deal of emotional harm can come to both of you if you pretend to be someone that you’re not.
Sell Yourself - You need a catchy headline. Strive to stand out from the crowd. Check out other profiles on the site, and see which ones have the headlines that stand out. (Note: It’s OK to check out the “competition”. In fact, I encourage it). Then, if the site shows how many times that person’s profile has been viewed, see which headlines have generated the most interest.
Stay in the right ballpark - If you’re looking a long-term romantic relationship, the specifications of your “equipment” will likely not generate much interest in your profile. Your suitors are most likely interested in that organ between your ears and the one in your chest (not on it) than anything else.
Know what you want and don’t settle - Be very clear and specific about the type of relationship you are looking for, and don’t settle for anything less. If you have certain views about parenting, committment, or about other social issues that are very important to you, be upfront about it. You don’t want to find out somewhere down the road that the person you’ve been talking to doesn’t want children when you want a housefull. Be open about these things upfront, and you will be contacted by people who have similar desires and views.
Be Honest - Wait, didn’t he say that already? Yes, I did, and it bears repeating, over, and over, and over again. As in any relationship, honesty is the foundation for a good online relationship. It’s always best to follow the Golden Rule (”Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”), or as I refer to it, The One-Rule Relationship. Don’t do anything in a relationship that you would not feel comfortable with if the other person was doing it.
GREENMAN
So, you’ve taken the plunge, and joined an online dating site. So many members to choose from. Where do I begin? Well, first, you’re going to need to write a personal ad that will motivate people to contact you. This may seem really difficult, but it’s really quite simple.
Here are some tips that may help you a bit:
Be honest/Be yourself - You are who you are. There’s no changing that. So why would you pretend to be someone else online? If all goes well, you will most likely eventually be meeting the person to whom you’re talking. They might be a little disappointed to find out that you’re not a 6′2″, 215 lb. former college linebacker or a petite 5′3″ 105-lb blonde former cheerleader. You may discover that the person you’re talking to thinks it’s great that you have a secret stash of Flock of Seagulls albums or that you really do like sappy love stories, or they may also be a divorced parent looking for the same in a relationship. In short, no harm can come from being yourself, but a great deal of emotional harm can come to both of you if you pretend to be someone that you’re not.
Sell Yourself - You need a catchy headline. Strive to stand out from the crowd. Check out other profiles on the site, and see which ones have the headlines that stand out. (Note: It’s OK to check out the “competition”. In fact, I encourage it). Then, if the site shows how many times that person’s profile has been viewed, see which headlines have generated the most interest.
Stay in the right ballpark - If you’re looking a long-term romantic relationship, the specifications of your “equipment” will likely not generate much interest in your profile. Your suitors are most likely interested in that organ between your ears and the one in your chest (not on it) than anything else.
Know what you want and don’t settle - Be very clear and specific about the type of relationship you are looking for, and don’t settle for anything less. If you have certain views about parenting, committment, or about other social issues that are very important to you, be upfront about it. You don’t want to find out somewhere down the road that the person you’ve been talking to doesn’t want children when you want a housefull. Be open about these things upfront, and you will be contacted by people who have similar desires and views.
Be Honest - Wait, didn’t he say that already? Yes, I did, and it bears repeating, over, and over, and over again. As in any relationship, honesty is the foundation for a good online relationship. It’s always best to follow the Golden Rule (”Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”), or as I refer to it, The One-Rule Relationship. Don’t do anything in a relationship that you would not feel comfortable with if the other person was doing it.
GREENMAN
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